An answer from TF

Congratulations on your imminent success - well deserved doubtless. A not unpleasant surprise to hear from you... I'd be more than a little curious too. However, I must explain that my always-chaotic private life has undergone radical changes yet again.[...] I'd love to see you while you're here but I would have to be discreet about meeting you because I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings in a complex situation. This, I realise, may make you reconsider wanting to see me. I would understand that. I hope, anyway, that you have a wonderful time on holiday celebrating your impending official cleverness and that you're well, TF

He is a private man, so it is not fair to broadcast his issues, but they do not include a romantic obligation to anyone else. You could summarize my response as "yes, yes, yes".

The thing I love about this man, more than anything, is that he has never conformed to stereotype of male stand-offishness and has always been honest and forthright with me (with the minor exception of his name, but that is a funny story I might tell some other day). I don't know what to expect from this meeting, but I am so grateful for it. Just to try to sort a little bit of the fantasy out of the reality, if nothing else.